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Thanks for not coaching me.

Last night at dinner my daughter said, ‘thanks dad for not coaching me or being my pastor today.’


I wanted to share this story as it may help all of you as well.

Yesterday was a nice day in Cincinnati and I wanted to go on a hike with my 15-year-old daughter.

However, I pretty much had to beg her. I know she doesn’t love the outdoors, but I also know that once she gets going, she enjoys it.

As we were hiking, we just talked.

I asked her questions, we talked about the school year coming to an end, and we even made a tik-tok video.

When we got to the dinner table last night, that’s when she said, “Thanks dad for not coaching me or being my pastor today.”

She told me the reason she was resistant to go on the hike was that I am always coaching her or finding ways to incorporate a God/Jesus teaching.

Don’t get me wrong – those are good things, but this hit me hard as a reminder, that I need to also be a dad.

I need to just have fun. Laugh. Let loose. Not be so serious about always trying to teach her something or tell her how to improve something.

So, maybe this helps some of you.

We need to remove that pressure we put on ourselves to constantly try and make them better by sharing all of our wisdom. Instead, we just need to learn about them and love them.

As we know in business relationships – when they know we care, then they will care.

So if we have the posture of learning and loving our kids, then we can lead them, because they then will follow.

Thank you for reading this post. Hopefully, it is helpful for you in your parenting.

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