July 28, 2020 Cory Carlson

Lessons from an adventure with my son

‘Dad, how many fish ? are we going to catch?’

‘I don’t know’.

‘Dad, how big are the fish ? going to be?’

‘I don’t know.’

‘Dad, how long will we be on the boat ??’

‘Son, I don’t know.’

This past weekend my son and I went on a chartered fishing trip.

I want to share some takeaways that may help you.

This was the first time I ever did anything like this.

Matter of fact, I have fished only a couple of times in my life and didn’t really care for it. ?

However, a good buddy of mine invited me to do this trip with his son.

I thought about it for a minute.

Should we go or not?

No, it is very expensive. ?

No, I am not really a fisherman, so will feel out of place.

No, my son would probably rather stay home.

No, I have a ton of work to do.

No, 6 hours on a boat is long and boring for a 7 year old. Maybe even boring for me. ?

The excuses kept rolling in for reasons not to do it.


Then I started to think about the reasons to do it.

Yes, it is a rare experience for both of us.

Yes, it would be just him and I on a guy trip and the talks we could have and memories we could make.

Yes, because we would both learn something new together.

As you can tell by the pictures, we said yes. ?

We had a blast. ??

We caught some fish.?


I wanted to share some key takeaways that I needed to be reminded of….and God used this trip to help remind me.

So hopefully they help you as well.

?Our kids need to see us do experiences for the first time. They need to know it is OK to say ‘I don’t know’

?Our kids need to see us hire a guide. Yes, there is value in figuring stuff out for ourself, but if you want to get further in life, you are going to need to hire a guide.

?Our kids need to see us spend money on adventure and not just things. In today’s world it can be so much about ‘things’ that we forget about the adventure. We need to help our kids live out an adventure.

?Our kids need to see that we are coachable. If we tell our kids to pay attention to their soccer coaches or dance instructors, then it is helpful if they see us following the lead of a coach as well.

?Our kids need to see us comfortable with the uncomfortable. So often our kids think we have it all figured out. That we have all the answers. It is great for our kids to see us having to be patient, curious, and not knowing what is next.

?Our kids need to see us take risks. They need to see us try new things. We can’t tell them to try new stuff at school if they see us play it safe. They need to know about the ways you are growing.


What can you do that puts you in an environment that shows your kids you are learning and growing?

– maybe it is talking to them about your new work project
– or telling them about something you are nervous about
– or telling them something you are excited about

We need to be living examples of what we want our kids to be.

Adventurous, coachable, and humble is a great start.

Thanks for reading.

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Thank you,


Cory Carlson

Cory Carlson is passionate about connecting people to greater performance and more significant purpose. Cory's competency of extensive sales/marketing and team development mixed with character of helping people have greater impact allows him to transform businesses and their leadership. As the leader goes, so does the company...and home. Cory's professional experience includes being President of Sales for national contractor, interactions with private equity ownership, boardroom meetings, to sales call with sales personnel. Coaching experience ranges from one-on-ones with CEOs/Executives to team workshops/retreats. If looking for holistic growth, let's connect!